What if you discovered you only had one year to live?
Morbid subject?
Perhaps. But it’s a question that we should all stop and think about occasionally.
What would you do with that last year? What would you do differently? Would you stop spinning your wheels, attending to all the little details, being a perfectionist, taking care of the mundane tasks that don’t make much difference? Would you spend more time on your business? Travel? Your friends? Your family? Your personal and spiritual life?
Each of us would answer that question differently. Each of us sees life through different eyes. All of us are at different phases in our life. Each of us has different values, different goals, and different dreams. And most of us think that we have all the time in the world to accomplish those goals and dreams.
But it ain’t so!
I don’t claim to be a philosopher and I certainly don’t have all the answers. But each day that is added to our lives adds additional knowledge and growth. And as of today, I’ve had 29,809 days to accumulate the joys and pains of daily living.
So, since I can’t speculate on what you would do, I’ll talk a little bit about me.
For me, my life is my job. And that life includes family, friends, my own goals and dreams. At this stage in my life, I find myself asking “Is what I am doing making a difference?”
I’m at the point in my life where I can do just about anything that I want to do. I have enough money to live comfortably. I’ve raised my daughters and love my grandchildren and great-grandchildren. My husband and I will soon be celebrating 63 years of a happy marriage. So why would I spend my time building internet businesses, writing blogs, and sharing what I’ve learned about business in general and the gift basket business specifically?
Part of it, of course, is the competitive spirit and challenge of creating a successful business that is as much a part of true entrepreneurs as breathing is. But even more is the drive to do something that matters as I conduct business in a humane and ethical way. The approaches I use to achieve my goals are as important as achieving them.
Take this blog, for instance. This blog was not created to be a money-making blog. I’m not selling anything on it. I do that with my other website ShopCreativeGifts. This blog has other goals.
The older I get, the more I require the freedom to express my own feelings and to tell things as I see them. I’ve seen the backside of the results of the need for paying advertisers — even in our own industry. For example, when you attend conventions and tradeshows, the products you are going to see pushed in the classes are not necessarily those that the speaker would have recommended if given the freedom to do so. They are the products supplied by the vendors. And if a speaker knows something negative about a vendor or personally feels that they aren’t a good match for our industry, the freedom to say so isn’t there.
I remember attending a “Jubilee” a number of years ago. All the speakers had this beautiful peacock printed cello that they used on their baskets. Of course, it was available from one of the vendors. And, impressed by the recommendation of the speakers that this was going to be the “hot” look for the season, I bought a roll. That roll–and it’s almost a full roll– is still sitting in my bucket of cello. Anybody want a roll of peacock-print cello?
Writing is one of the talents I’ve been given and I’ve learned the techniques to make it work well for me. I’ve used that ability in the past to teach some of the knowledge I’ve accumulated in a column for one of our trade publications. But the freedom to express my feelings about a paying advertiser wasn’t there. As a result of overstepping that limitation, my column was dropped from the magazine.
When that magazine discontinued publication, I started my own and published it each month for 13 years.
And, now, this blog. I can say what I want without having my hands slapped. I can be honest and express my opinions. I am beholden to no advertiser. Of course, there are still the limitations of not writing something that is untrue and can’t be proven. But I wouldn’t do that anyway. This blog allows me the opportunity to share what I have learned through the years and perhaps, as a result, help others create success.
This post is a lot longer than most — and more personal. But, I’ve been asked: “What is the reason for this blog? What do you hope to accomplish?” And, I’ve felt the need to explain.
This blog is simply the answer to two questions:
- My life is my business. What am I doing with it?
- Is what I am doing making a difference?
Back to the original question of “What If? ” I’ve talked about the business part of my life. Some of my life experiences may be too personal to share in a blog while others will be shared with you in future posts.
But if I died tomorrow, I could tell myself, “I’ve accomplished my goals. I’ve allowed the most important parts of my life–family, friends, faith, entrepreneurship–to influence each other and, hopefully, I’ve made a small difference in someone’s life along the way.”
Thanks for sharing this Joyce. You’ve struck a real cord with me. I had been struggling to get up the enthusiasm for my gift business at the last. I had given it all my energy and thinking. I needed to stop and resort my life and work balance. I’ve got two beautiful new grandsons which I’m really enjoying spending time with and a good sized garden to work on.
I’ve decided to continue my life on a less stressful pace.
All the best for your new blog.